Before #MeToo
and “#ChurchToo—before there even was the Internet—there was Winnipegger Peggy Unruh
Regehr.
Unruh Regehr,
who died September 27 last year at the age of 89, was a pioneer in championing
the cause of women in leadership in Mennonite denominations in Canada.
She became
interested in feminism in the late 1960s. By the late 1970s, the mother of
three went back to university to study feminist theology.
In 1984 she
was hired by Mennonite Central Committee (MCC) Canada in to start its new
Women’s Concerns program.
Speaking at
her funeral, friend Esther Epp-Tiessen remembered Unruh Regehr as “a
middle-aged biblical feminist who believed that Jesus wanted women to
flourish.”
She grew up,
she said, “at a time when women in the church had secondary status, and limited
roles. She chafed under it, and it sparked a passion to change things.”
Problem was,
the world of the Canadian Mennonite church in the 1980s and 1990s wasn’t very
open to those kind of changes.
Although Unruh Regehr relished the job, she
encountered challenges and obstacles right from the start.
As
Epp-Tiessen put it: “She knocked on the doors of Mennonite denominational
leaders, asking them to open them to women in leadership. They were resistant.”
Reflecting on
that experience in the 1990s, Unruh Regehr said: “As I tried to address some of
those issues, I found I [was] treading on toes . . . in fact I had some
personal attacks and criticisms for what I am doing.”
“She paid a
price for her outspokenness,” Epp-Tiessen said.
While her
work generated a lot of negative reaction, it was a source of hope and
encouragement for many women who wanted equality and full participation in the
church.
But while that
door to increased involvement in leadership was kept mostly closed, another
opened.
During her
travels, Unruh Regehr became increasingly aware of the problem of abuse against
women and children in Mennonite churches.
She was often pulled aside by women who
told her about the abuse they were suffering in their families—physical, sexual,
emotional, psychological, and spiritual.
Although the
stories weighed her down, she always took time to “tap into the secret traumas
experienced by women across the country,” as Epp-Tiessen put it.
“She
validated those women by hearing their stories, and bore their pain in her own
soul,” she said.
In response, Unruh
Regehr was at the forefront of helping Mennonite churches and MCC respond. One
way was by creating resources for pastors and churches to both make them aware
and help them respond to these tragic situations.
When she met women
who were ready to give up on their faith, she encouraged them to keep at it—despite
the personal attacks and her own anger at the church.
She told them to keep at
it; if not for themselves, then for the women who would follow.
Her work with
MCC came to an unsatisfying conclusion in 1989 when she was let go.
She
believed her dismissed was because of her forceful advocacy on behalf of women
in Mennonite denominations, and also for battling for equal pay for women at
MCC. It was a bitter pill that gnawed at her for the rest of her life.
Today, things
are very different for women in most Mennonite churches. And Unruh Regehr’s advocacy
on their behalf, as forceful and strong as it was, would seem tame in these
days of #MeToo.
And yet, as
Epp-Tiessen put it, the gains women have made would not have been possible
without people like her.
“We stand on
the shoulders of others who have gone before, people like Peggy,” she stated.
“She was ahead of her time, committed to justice and equality for women, and we
are deeply indebted to the sacrifice she made.”
As for Unruh
Regehr herself, in the early 2000s she reflected on her legacy this way:
“It was a work that I cherished regardless of what I
experienced. I do not ever regret having been involved with it. Personally, it
sums up a great part of any legacy I may have left for the future. It may have
been ever so small, but it was important to me.”
And,
as it turns out, it was important to many other women as well.
I remember being very inspired by Peggy's drive and determination! Thank you for writing this!
ReplyDeleteAs Carol said, thank you, John!
ReplyDeleteDuring my days with Voices for Non-Violence, I was always aware that I was walking on a road that she had first cleared. And often talked with women for whom she had been a gift and a sign of hope. Pioneer is the right word for her!